სმარტფონზე დამოკიდებულების დაძლევა: პირადი გამოცდილებაThe Guardian • 3 დღის წინკულტურაწყაროThe Guardian - Doomscrolling, people pleasing and low-fat foods? Life’s too short! Nine writers on what they won’t bother with this year
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